My friend recently shared this on Facebook (I know, I have a Facebook problem):
Every single day is a gift. It’s a brand new day, a day to start over and count your blessings and do the things that mean the most to you. Yesterday and all the days before that are over. You can’t change them. Ever. You can change yourself, you can change your situation, you can change your attitude. But what’s done, is done. Wake up everyday and strive to make it better than yesterday. Stop focusing on all the negatives that have already happened and just live for today.
How true is that?
I’ve heard it said that dwelling on the past causes depression and dwelling on the future causes anxiety. That makes sense to me.
When you think about the past too much, you keep running scripts of different things you should have, could have, would have done differently. Maybe you can pinpoint one thing you would change, or maybe you have many things you wish had happened differently, or maybe you just want a second try because you can’t think of anything specific.
When you think about the future too much, you are missing what’s right in front of you. You’re thinking two steps ahead, and probably having whole conversations with people that won’t go the way you think they will (because they are another person and not scripted by your brain). You’re worrying about a decision you need to make tomorrow, but also worrying about every possible outcome of every possible decision. You’re missing the now to focus on things that might not even happen.
All this thought, about what has been and what might be, just drives home the point that you think your right-now isn’t good enough.
And it is. It totally is.
Every day is a chance to make it better than yesterday. Do something with it.